Start When to start dating after the loss of a spouse

When to start dating after the loss of a spouse

Especially when your spouse is first separating, the connections you make by agreement will be very weak.

It would be like trying to convince a child to eat liver because it’s nutritious, after he or she has had to eat liver every day for several years.

Just the thought of that is repulsive and no amount of sweet talk or reasoning is going to overcome that gut reaction.

When you only have minimal contact with your spouse, each word can be important.

A really nice message can backfire if it contains just one needy word.

There is nothing protective in having a marriage license.

Marriage is important because it demonstrates the level of commitment that couples have toward each other at the time they are getting married.

The good news is that unless your spouse will have no communication with you, the reconnect is under your control.

The way that you communicate will either automatically create a connection or automatically push your partner further from you.

I don’t recommend that you try to work on any marriage issues until after your spouse starts to desire to rebuild your marriage.

Although problem solving is essential for getting rid of the problems that led to the separation in the first place, working on marital issues and reconnecting at the same time will make both more difficult and less likely to succeed.

It’s an important time to continue to work on building connections and attraction, but still with no attempt to persuade your spouse to come back.